Lets cut through the bullshit so that I can give it to you straight...okay?
One of the real reasons why black women, successful ones anyway, aren't married are because most of them are trying to keep it real at all costs. What I mean by keeping it real? Well, let me tell you......gingerly.
Most of these black women have a tendency to be blinded by wanting a black man or not wanting to hurt those motherfuckers' feelings by looking elsewhere for love, respect and the courtship they truly deserve. So they fucking settle to say that they have a black man -- any old piece of shit will do. That is why some of them are usually stuck with dating well below them; a bottom of the barrel of sorts, if you will because after awhile, they have come to the terms of accepting they can make this shit of a man something great.
Desperation to make it to the alter or seal a commitment has most black women, 'of high caliber', utilizing an uncanny inclusion of dating black men who are below them in standards. These men can't match them in contribution at all and are more like red headed step children deserving of little respect in the long haul of the relationship. Yes, sometimes, a sista's willingness in 'keeping it real' can go absolutely wrong because these same women, usually successful, end up with black men leeching for the sake of a free ride totally on their overall expense.
Sure, there are equally successful black men out there but they have long opened their options that includes marrying up to women of other racial backgrounds, even if those women are worthless aside from sucking dick from sunrise to sunset, and therefore excluding the available successful black women who can match them in contribution and overall partnering. However, when some of the same black men marry black women, they usually opt for the women who have nothing going for themselves in addition to having children by up to several different men for him to provide for. So, I digress.
My only advice for black women, in this situation, is to start treating their dating habits like a Merrill Lynch portfolio and DIVERSI-DAMN-FY. Date outside your fucking race, ladies! You may be surprised at the happiness that awaits you in addition to the the marriage that has been evading you with 'the brothers' for a long as time. Just saying. Here is a clip of some 'dressed up reasons' why the described women are not married....and then they have the thirst to accept advice from the hypocrite, Steve Harvey himself.
4 comments:
You made me close my mouth with this post. It does have elements of truth to it so I can't help but agree but most black women won't date outside their race because it is foreign to them or they feel like the men of other races will only use them for some stereotype that they have heard about concerning black women. Then again there are black women out there who are just turned off by looking at men of other races and don't want that pink or red meat. I know for myself I just couldn't.
I tried not to say anything because I felt that you were just gunning for a rise out of me but when I thought about it, I felt that you were actually on to something.
I just want you to know that it is hard for most black women regardless of success to step out and date men of other races. There is the fear of misconceptions that bombard us just as much as it does the non black men.
There are the pressures of society that still harbors prejudices against interracial dating and marriages and sometimes, these men can't handle what black women deal with everyday and that is the pressure of possibly being involved with the wrong one.
The ridicule hurts and to avoid it black women do themselves the favor of not going the route of dating outside their race.
You have to take into thought that some men of other races feel that black women are not good enough to be treated well and have nice things much like their own women but black women are good enough to have sex with because of the misconceptions. So why bother dating outside our race with things like that working against us?
This issue has been talked about so many times and in so many ways that it can be memorized. It says a lot about the dating pool that women of color subject themselves to but most women may want to take a self inventory to figure out what is really going on with them in order to make some improvements in the men that they are choosing in comparison to the men that they should be with or wanting to really attract above a subconscience level.
AS A MAN I CAN SAY THIS ARTICLE HITS THE NAIL ON
THE HEAD AS TO WHY SO MANY BLACK WOMEN ARE NOT
MAKING IT TO THE ALTER. ALL YOU FEMALE READERS
MAY WANT TO TAKE NOTE AND STOP WITH THE EXCUSES
BECAUSE THE REASON HAS BEEN LAID OUT BEFORE YOU!
Post a Comment